First, if you have no friends outside of AA, make some. Find someone else who left. Better yet, find someone who never went. By all means, stay away from people, places and things (in this case, program people, places & things).

Seek validation of your doubts. Search the net. We're out there. We're free. We're willing to offer keyboard time to talk you down.

Stop using program language. Stop being "grateful" for everything. Try "thankful", or maybe just plain "glad", or even better, dare to allow yourself once in a while to be ungrateful without guilt.

Read a book to help you deprogram. Ken Ragge's The Real AA, Behind the Myth of Twelve Step Recovery! is a good one, or pick one from the "Choose Freedom" Bookstore. If a large dose of forbidden information is too much for one sitting, try reading it "one page at a time".

If the free cookies and coffee lure you back, sit down and calculate the number of dollars you've put in that basket. Now go buy your own cookies and coffee. You should still have enough left over for a good psychotherapist. Find one. Untangle your history and gain understanding of your self. Systematically discard the false personal history which is the result of exessive step meeting attendance. The goal is to discard the implanted truth and to find YOUR truth.

If the social aspect lures you back, and it will, remember that it comes at a high price. Loss of the immediately available social network is the number one most difficult thing to deal with.

Here's an excerpt from Steven Hassan's "Combatting Cult Mind Control".

The loneliness which follows breaking away from AA is real. Some people who you thought were your friends will reclassify you as a dangerous (unsafe) person simply for having left. This is sad and painful. An on-line discussion group can help here. A vigilant effort must be made to join a new group, or to find a new social outlet. If you feel the pull drawing you back to the rooms, ask yourself whether you really want to belong to a group which limits your thinking and demands that you to compromise your personal integrity. Ask yourself whether those program "friends" would stand by you if you disagreed with them. Some may... if so, keep them, but most wont... Ask yourself whether the "truth" you learned in AA would be able to hold up in the face of conflicting information. If not, is it really the truth? Ask yourself why you don't see people having to assemble on a regular basis to validate verifiable facts, like "the sky is blue". Are meetings there to reinforce proven absolutes which forgetful alcoholics need to be reminded of, or do meetings exist to reinforce a dubious and potentially harmful mythology.

Pursue an activity you enjoy. Choose a sport. Start to exercise. Bring your mind, body and spirit into harmony.

Educate yourself. Read books. Any books... as long as they're not "Big". Expand your knowledge.

Learn how to trust your instincts. Listen to your gut. Think critically. Speak honestly.

Find people whom you respect. Talk to them. Ask them questions.

Take chances that will allow you to grow.